When I say big I mean one that was important in their lives that may have changed their life in one way or another. When I say recently it doesn’t necessarily mean ‘time’ wise. A relationship could have ended years ago but if they’re still holding on to it then it’s too early for them to be in another relationship. Whether that person believes it or not, they need time. You don’t want to be known as the rebound. Even if it’s the first time they finally gave you a chance it might just because they’re lonely. You don’t want them to want you because they’re desperate, they should want you because they like you for you. If you ever try to start something with someone who’s still caught up in their past, it will just bring problems to your future no matter how many times you try to dodge it. You can tell when someone looks in your eyes and sees someone else. Maybe it will work out between you two, the timing is just wrong.